Is the transient nature of love a common experience?

Even if the relationship only lasts for twenty-four hours, if you really go into it, it is tremendously fulfilling. And it may last for twenty-four years and nothing happens. You can see so many dead husbands and wives living together for years, for centuries it seems, and nothing has happened! Length is not the question -- quality, not quantity. So the second thing: drop the idea of longer or shorter; that is not your worry. If it stays, good; if it disappears, good. And what can you do? Right now if you are immature, you are, so you have to relate in this immaturity. In fact the very desire to have a long relationship is part of immaturity -- otherwise one moment of love is quite enough. A mature person is independent; an. immature person is dependent. It is because of the dependency that we long for a longer relationship.

Question: OSHO, WHAT IS INITIATION ACCORDING TO YOU? "Secondly, I chose this man because he is constantly on tour, so he will not constantly torture me, and we will not be together constantly to harass each other, to embarrass each other. He is free -- wherever he wants to go, with whomsoever he wants to go. I am not concerned because I don't love him, so there is no question of jealousy. And I am free. And when, even after loving a person for three years, ultimately it turns out that he is only a stranger, then what is the point of wasting three years? "Strangers you can meet every day.

Orange is the colour of sunrise. It is the beginning of the morning, a declaration that the night is over, a declaration that now there is no need to live in darkness; you can live in light, and the light is yours. All that is needed is to open your eyes and see. The world is tremendously beautiful and full of light. But people live with closed eyes, with closed hearts... hiding behind walls and walls and walls. Then they go on crying and weeping and saying 'Why is there so much darkness?' but they don't open their eyes. Sannyas means to live your life with open eyes, with open heart, with open being, and the sunrise is always there. [A question about falling in and out of love] Then one has to suffer! We suffer because we never listen to life and we try to impose ourselves upon life.

One feels frozen -- I can understand. They say that even animals feel very sad after making love. What to say about man? Watch animals. Look at a bull after he makes love and see how sad he looks going away. Completely lost, stupid, shy, ashamed... wants to hide somewhere so nobody looks at him. And see when he comes to make love -- with what gusto and zeal!... And when he goes, then? Just see those two -- and it is the same bull! Animals also feel-a little sad, mm? because it had promised so much, and nothing is in the hands. You have been befooled by nature! Yes, that's exactly what it is: nature goes on befooling people so that nature can go on reproducing, otherwise who will bother? There are a thousand beautiful things to do.

When that doesn't happen, it hurts. It is not love that hurts, remember... it is the ego that hurts. Now you love one woman and one day she starts moving towards somebody else. The ego feels hurt: 'So is there something missing in me? Why has she left me? Why in the first place should she ever think of leaving me? What is wrong in my love?' Nothing is wrong in your love. It is just that one day it happened with you; now it is happening with somebody else. And with me there is utter freedom. I don't want to impose anything on anybody. If it has disappeared, it has disappeared. Then you start feeling very uncomfortable. You can't trust this, you can't take it, you can't accept it -- that a woman who has loved you can love any other man. Why not?