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What happens when I marry someone I hate?

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Marrying someone you hate is a recipe for mutual torture; true love arises only from awareness and understanding, not from unconscious impulses.

— Osho
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Core Insight:
According to Osho, marrying someone you hate springs from unconscious, superficial choices, so it becomes a mutual torture and a deep, usual human mess rather than love. Most marriages are 'hate marriages' born of impulse—faces, voices, curves—without real understanding. The remedy isn't blame but awakening: cultivate awareness, intelligence, and witnessing so decisions grow realistic, responsible, and loving.
If you marry someone you dislike, you’ll likely end up suffering together—unless you wake up, look deeper than appearances, and choose with awareness.
Why this matters practically
- Pause before commitment; check if your reasons go beyond looks or voice.
- Practice daily witnessing (awareness) to choose and relate more intelligently.
- Take responsibility rather than blame, turning conflict into learning.
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