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Is it possible to love someone without feeling intense negative emotions towards them?

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In ordinary love, passion and conflict are inseparable; only the love of the buddhas transcends this duality.

— Osho
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Core Insight:
According to Osho, in ordinary, passionate love it's impossible to love someone without also feeling flashes of anger, even 'murderous' impulses; love and fight are intertwined. This duality fuels the passion—stop the struggle and that kind of love fades. Only the love of the buddhas lies beyond conflict, but the question concerns the human love that thrives on polarity.
In normal love, some fighting and angry feelings come with the love; without that push-and-pull, the fiery love goes out.
Why this matters practically
- You won't panic when anger arises in love; you can stay, observe, and respond wisely.
- You can channel tension into dialogue and intimacy instead of destruction.
- If you want love beyond conflict, cultivate awareness/meditation to grow past polarity.
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