Childbirth can be orgasmic The Shadow Of The Whip #6

[A sannyasin, eight months pregnant, asks: There is one thing I wanted to ask -- if there is any possibility, is there something that the mother can do to reduce the break of memory that the child has through the birth and to make it as easy as possible for the child?]

Certainly the mother can do much -- but you can do only by non-doing. So simply relax. Non-interference has to be remembered, and when you start feeling the pain simply go with the pain. When you start feeling the movements in the womb, and the body starts getting ready to give birth, and there is a rhythmic pulse inside.... That pulse people think is painful; it is not painful -- it is our wrong interpretation that makes it painful.

So when the pulse arises, simply accept it, float with it. It is just like breathing in, breathing out, so -- the womb and the birth channel start expanding, shrinking. That is just a way to make a passage for the child. When you feel it is pain, when you decide it is pain, you start fighting with it because it is very difficult not to fight with pain. When you start fighting you start an interference with the rhythm. That interference is very destructive to the child. If the mother simply helps the child, if whatsoever is happening the mother goes with the body -- expands with the body, shrinks with the body, allows the pulse and simply enjoys it -- it is really a great delight. But it depends how you take it.

For example, now at least in the West people have more advanced ideas about sex. Otherwise in the past all down the centuries the first sexual experience for the woman was very painful. She was just trembling because from the very childhood it was taught that it is very ugly, animalistic, so she was just shaking with fear. The honeymoon would come close and the woman would be trembling. She has to go through the ordeal -- it was an ordeal, and of course then it was painful. But now in the West at least, the pain has disappeared. It is a beautiful experience -- it is orgasmic.

It is exactly the same thing with childbirth. It is greater orgasm than sexual orgasm, because in a sexual orgasm your body takes a rhythm: expands, shrinks, expands, shrinks, but it is nothing com-pared to when you are giving birth to a child. To give birth to a child is a million-fold bigger orgasm. If you take it as an orgasm -- happy, delighted, rejoicing in it, that's all -- then the child simply comes out of the passage, helped by you. Otherwise if the mother is fighting -- the child wants to come out and the mother is fighting, and she is not allowing the movement that is needed for it, the necessary movement. Sometimes the child is stuck the head is stuck. If the head is stuck, the child will suffer his whole life. He will not be as intelligent as he would have been, because his head is very soft and the brain is still developing. Just a little shock. just a little closing, and the brain is no more as healthy as it could have been.

So help it, enjoy it. Just take it as if you are moving in a great orgasm -- nothing else. No interference on your part is the greatest help for a child. Then the child comes easily, relaxed, in a let-go. And then your child will not need Primal therapy, otherwise each person needs Primal therapy because everybody has suffered a birth trauma, and it has been so painful for the child. It is just the first experience, and the first experience is so ugly, suffocating, almost killing the child: the passage is narrow and the mother is tense and the child cannot come out of the passage.

This is his first experience. So the first experience is of hell, and then the whole life becomes miserable. Let the first experience be of a beautiful flowing, and that will be the foundation for the child.

[The music group was at darshan tonight. They played and people present at darshan danced.]