Prem means love and homen means god of sacrifice -- god of sacrifice and love. And love is the most fundamental sacrifice in the world, because when you give yourself, then only does love grow... when you give up yourself, when you give in, when there is no resistance to survive on your side.
Love is almost like death. You die, you disappear, you dissolve, and in that very disappearance you appear for the first time in a totally new way with a totally new being. So it is sacrifice and it is a new birth.
When you sacrifice without love it is torture. One should never sacrifice unless there is love. And when there is love, if you are afraid to sacrifice, love will never grow. It will always remain a dream, it will never become a reality.
Love demands total sacrifice; that's why there is constant struggle, conflict between lovers. And there is a misunderstanding between lovers, a very fundamental misunderstanding: they think that the other is demanding sacrifice. The other is not demanding sacrifice, love demands sacrifice! The other is not love, the other feels you are demanding sacrifice. You are not demanding it.
Love beyond both, the god of love, demands sacrifice. It is not that you sacrifice to your beloved or your beloved sacrifices to you. You both sacrifice to the god of love.
There is a misunderstanding between lovers: they think the other is too demanding: the other is not demanding.
Maybe the god of love is using the other as he is using you, mm? because he has no body.
In India we have a myth about the god of love -- that he has no body, he is bodiless. The myth is beautiful....
Shiva was meditating on the Himalayas. The god of love tempted him and he became very angry. He opened his third eye and it was such a tremendous energy, it was fire! He poured his fire on the god of love so that he was burned, his body was burned utterly, forever. Since then he has been without a body, he moves amongst people with no body.
So love uses your body, your lover's body; hence the cause of misunderstanding. But it is love that demands sacrifice. Love is not possible without sacrifice. It exists only when there is utter sacrifice with no condition, with no bargain....
Osho's Commentary
Love is almost like death. You die, you disappear, you dissolve, and in that very disappearance you appear for the first time in a totally new way with a totally new being. So it is sacrifice and it is a new birth.
When you sacrifice without love it is torture. One should never sacrifice unless there is love. And when there is love, if you are afraid to sacrifice, love will never grow. It will always remain a dream, it will never become a reality.
Love demands total sacrifice; that's why there is constant struggle, conflict between lovers. And there is a misunderstanding between lovers, a very fundamental misunderstanding: they think that the other is demanding sacrifice. The other is not demanding sacrifice, love demands sacrifice! The other is not love, the other feels you are demanding sacrifice. You are not demanding it.
Love beyond both, the god of love, demands sacrifice. It is not that you sacrifice to your beloved or your beloved sacrifices to you. You both sacrifice to the god of love.
There is a misunderstanding between lovers: they think the other is too demanding: the other is not demanding.
Maybe the god of love is using the other as he is using you, mm? because he has no body.
In India we have a myth about the god of love -- that he has no body, he is bodiless. The myth is beautiful....
Shiva was meditating on the Himalayas. The god of love tempted him and he became very angry. He opened his third eye and it was such a tremendous energy, it was fire! He poured his fire on the god of love so that he was burned, his body was burned utterly, forever. Since then he has been without a body, he moves amongst people with no body.
So love uses your body, your lover's body; hence the cause of misunderstanding. But it is love that demands sacrifice. Love is not possible without sacrifice. It exists only when there is utter sacrifice with no condition, with no bargain....