What causes fluctuating feelings of love, hate, and indifference towards the same person?
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"What you call love is often just a sexual appetite; true love is a gift that flows freely, without the need for fulfillment or exploitation."
According to Osho, your swings from love to hate to indifference arise because what you call love is mostly sexual appetite masked as love. Desire pulls you when you’re ‘hungry’; after satiation, repulsion appears, and when the body is fully explored, indifference sets in. Mutual exploitation fuels resentment. Real love—akin to friendship—gives without demanding and doesn’t oscillate like appetite.
It’s like craving candy: you want it, then feel sick of it after eating too much, and later don’t care—so it isn’t love, just appetite.
Why this matters practically
- Stop mislabeling desire as love; make honest choices about sex, boundaries, and expectations.
- Cultivate friendship-like, non-demanding love that gives rather than exploits.
- Reduce drama by noticing the hunger–satiation–repulsion cycle and pausing instead of reacting.
- Cultivate friendship-like, non-demanding love that gives rather than exploits.
- Reduce drama by noticing the hunger–satiation–repulsion cycle and pausing instead of reacting.
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