Why does sex feel futile?
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"Drop the borrowed judgments about sex, and let your direct experience reveal the instinctive bliss that lies beneath the surface of futility."
According to Osho, sex feels futile mostly because borrowed condemnations - 'sex is dirty/sinful' - override direct experience. In the silent intimacy of intercourse, one partner's thought of futility instantly infects the other. Thus a surface, intellectual misery masks a deeper, instinctive bliss. Drop secondhand judgments, meet the instinct naturally, and let experience - not conditioning - decide; only then, if futility arises, is it real.
It feels pointless because we've been taught to feel guilty, and that borrowed thought spreads between partners, covering up the natural pleasure underneath.
Why this matters practically
- Notice and drop inherited shame; approach sex naturally to reconnect with genuine joy.
- Communicate and maintain a judgment-free field; avoid transmitting futility to your partner.
- Trust first-hand experience over ideology to resolve inner conflict and make conscious choices (including celibacy).
- Communicate and maintain a judgment-free field; avoid transmitting futility to your partner.
- Trust first-hand experience over ideology to resolve inner conflict and make conscious choices (including celibacy).
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