Why is communication so difficult, particularly between lovers?
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"Communication falters not in the realm of objects, but in the depths of meanings and feelings, where our conditioning collides and words become inadequate."
According to Osho, communication is hard because every mind is a separately conditioned world; words carry different histories, so the same term means different things. As long as we deal with objects, we manage; trouble begins with concepts. Lovers struggle more because love forces them beyond things into meanings, values and feelings—precisely where conditioning collides and words fail.
We use the same words but have different inner pictures; lovers talk about big feelings, so the pictures clash more.
Why this matters practically
- Slow down and check meanings: ask, “What do you mean by this word?”
- Speak from lived experience (“I feel/see…”) instead of abstractions.
- Build a shared vocabulary; prefer concrete examples over assumptions.
- Speak from lived experience (“I feel/see…”) instead of abstractions.
- Build a shared vocabulary; prefer concrete examples over assumptions.
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