Why is it difficult to forgive and stop clinging to past hurts?
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"Forgiveness is not an effort but a natural release that arises when you see the absurdity of the mind's games and shift your focus from wounds to the beauty of life."
According to Osho, forgiving is hard because the ego feeds on misery and negativity; it survives by clinging to wounds, exaggerating hurts, and saying 'no.' Effortful forgiving only represses and can even inflate ego pride ('I forgave'). Real release comes from seeing the mind’s absurd game, accepting one's ordinariness, and shifting attention from thorns to roses; then the ego thins, bliss returns, and forgetting happens naturally.
We hold on to hurt because our ego enjoys the drama; once we see this silly habit and stop feeding it, letting go and forgetting happen by themselves.
Why this matters practically
- Noticing when you’re savoring hurts stops feeding the ego’s cycle of misery.
- Accepting your ordinariness disarms pride, making genuine forgiveness effortless.
- Focusing on simple joys (‘roses’) weakens the pull of old wounds.
- Accepting your ordinariness disarms pride, making genuine forgiveness effortless.
- Focusing on simple joys (‘roses’) weakens the pull of old wounds.
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