Why is it so hard for me to fall in love?
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outcome
"Real love requires the courage to drop the ego and meet the other as an end in themselves, for to avoid love is a subtle form of suicide."
According to Osho, love feels hard because it threatens the ego and we confuse it with lust. Ego seeks control; lust seeks to use the other—both breed fear, so we escape into ideals or isolation. Real love demands courage: dropping ego, refusing exploitation, and meeting the other as an end in themselves. Love is nourishment for the soul; avoiding it is subtle suicide.
It’s hard because your ego is scared and lust tries to use people; real love needs courage, openness, and not using anyone.
Why this matters practically
- Practice courageous vulnerability: relax ego-defenses and choose honesty over control.
- Transcend lust: stop using or manipulating; respect the other as an end, not a means.
- Quit hiding behind ideals or isolation; meet love directly as nourishment for your soul.
- Transcend lust: stop using or manipulating; respect the other as an end, not a means.
- Quit hiding behind ideals or isolation; meet love directly as nourishment for your soul.
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