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What is the reason for an interest in married women?

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"The allure of married women is not love, but a game of ego—where desire thrives on competition, scarcity, and the thrill of conquest, leaving true intimacy forever out of reach."

Core Insight:
According to Osho, fascination with married women isn’t love but a common ego-disease: imitation seeks social proof (“someone already desired her”), competition craves the triangular struggle, and scarcity makes the inaccessible more alluring. The married woman allows fantasy and waiting to replace real intimacy; you chase victory over her husband, not her. Once the contest ends, interest fades—exposing unconscious jealousy, aggression, and fear of the real.
You like married women because your ego wants what others want, the challenge feels exciting, and dreaming about someone hard to get feels safer than real love.
Why this matters practically
- Spot ego-driven motives and choose genuine, available love.
- Avoid triangle dramas that harm everyone involved.
- Build self-worth so you don’t need ‘proof’ from others’ choices.
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