Why do I feel close when far away but distant when together?
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outcome
"Real love flourishes in the acceptance of our existential aloneness, meeting as free strangers rather than entangled in the illusions of proximity."
According to Osho, you feel close from afar because you’re relating to your own imagination; distance lets you project an ideal image and feel intimate with it. When together, fantasies must drop, and the other’s irreducible strangeness appears. We are existentially alone; no one can enter another’s aloneness. Real love accepts this mystery, meeting as free strangers without roles.
When you’re far, you love your picture of them; up close, the real, unknown person shows—so let go of the story and meet them honestly.
Why this matters practically
- Stop projecting fantasies; relate to who is actually there.
- Accept mutual aloneness; reduce control and resentment, allow freedom.
- Build honest intimacy by meeting each other’s mystery with curiosity.
- Accept mutual aloneness; reduce control and resentment, allow freedom.
- Build honest intimacy by meeting each other’s mystery with curiosity.
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